House of Fire


The House of Fire is a real-time, poly Household that finds fulfillment through a spiritual expression of the Ms dynamic. This is a "Our way or the highway" relationship. Obedience is the one and only hard and fast rule. All others are subject to change as We see fit or as We are directed by Spirit.

Master/slave relationships, as defined in Our household, are not "common" relationships. This means that the rules and expectations of common society don't apply here. Thus, no one in the household apologizes, says, "Please," or says, "Thank you,". These are common and necessary in polite society, of course, but, again, Our Ms relationships are not based on the social constructs of polite society. There are different rules here, ones that require a certain amount of Self development and emotional IQ.

Mission Statement

It is our collective mission to create a Master/slave Household using an agreed upon and well defined structure in order to foster a consensual, spiritually led, transfer of authority from the slave to Master Fire based on the obedience of each individual, the slaves to Master and the Master to Spirit. We strive for these relationships, as well as the ensuing interrelationships within the Household, to be healthy, balanced and empowering in order to offer insightful learning experiences for everyone.

Vision Statement

In order to foster the Master/slave and interrelationships in the Household, we find the following points to be essential and identifying:

* Obedience is expected and foundational.

* A transfer of authority is necessary for a Master/slave relationship.

* A defined structure is important to the health of the Master/slave relationship.

* We are all adults of equal value entering into a relationship. We are not, however, of equal status.

* The Master is in surrender, and is obedient, to his or her calling to be the head of the Master/slave dynamic.

* The slave is in surrender, and is obedient, to his or her calling to serve the Master.

* Supporting each other to be true to ourselves and our chosen paths (i.e. to be authentic) is important to the success of the Household.

* Devotion, loyalty, honor and trust are important parts of the Master/slave relationship, on both sides of the slash.

* Service is a multi-faceted construct that is unique to each individual person; no one's service will look exactly, or be expected to look exactly, like any other's.

* The intent behind our motivation is what makes, or breaks, our actions or desires. 

Household Goals

It is Our overarching goal to build a household of service, to each other, to our community and to the world. Each person has a unique role to play in this.We hope that, through the items found in Our Mission and Visions statements, we create a nurturing, comforting, and supporting Household for all those involved. By doing such, Our intimate goals encompass empowering each to reach their fullest potential in their respective roles through obedience and service.

Basic Household Protocols

Emotional IQ Protocols

Neither the slave, nor the Master, will apologize, or use "Please", "Thank you," or "May".
  1. Apology:
    To Us, admitting a mistake is totally different than apologizing; "We were wrong," or "it was wrong," is entirely different than, "We're sorry," or, "it’s sorry." This isn't about avoiding saying, "Sorry," due to bravado or just because one of us doesn't want to. This is about state of "being" in which each of us lives a life of right intent, making the best choices possible and behaving in the highest manner possible. If this is done, then there is no
    need to apologize because any mistakes were due to lack of info, lack of insight or from things beyond anyone’s control; there was no malicious intent behind them.

  2. Similarly, we do not say, "Please," or, "Thank you," in the household. It is Our job to give orders, such that the slave can experience fulfillment through obedience. If We make requests, the slave is continually given choices rather than being offered the chance to obey. Choice, in this context, subconsciously tells the slave that it and the relationship is common. Orders and obedience tell the slave that the relationship is extraordinary. Doing away with common societal rules reinforces that we have an extraordinary relationship and household.
  3. "We" and "it:"
    Master Fire speaks with a spiritually driven speech protocol that resembles the "royal We" pattern of speech, but with a different intent. The plural "We" is used rather than "I", not as an indication of aloof royalty, but as admission that she cannot exist without All Our Relations, a Native American term that means, "Everything to which we, as humans, are connected." This is a pattern that focuses on changing the ego's perspective and emphasizing that being a Master is an extraodinary state of being. The slave will speak in third person objective. It is not meant as a negative objectification, but as a statement of closeness; Master Fire's hand is an "it" and the slave is as important and close to her as that. It is also meant as a way for the slave to change its egoic perspective and again emphasizes the extraordinary position of slave.

Basic protocols
  1. General Action
    1. The slave will obey the "law of the land." This means to obey the protocols or social structure for the setting they are in; obey work structure when at work, obey Our structure when with Us (and it is appropriate) and obey space, group or personal protocols when visiting others.
    2. When at home, the slave is not permitted to use furniture without permission.
    3. The slave will ask permission to use the bathroom, eat or drink. "Do you wish this slave to... ?" is the appropriate question and, "Ma'am, yes Ma'am" is the appropriate response, regardless of the answer. "May I...?" or "May it...?" are never appropriate.
    4. Unless Our partner is doing these things for Us, adopt "gentlemanly" behavior, male or not. This means take Our coat, open doors, carry packages, etc.
    5. Casual and formal presents are expected when ordered (how to present is in Appendix B).
  2. Speech
    1. The slave will use third person objective speech when in Our protocol.
    2. Personal pronouns such as "I," "me" and "mine" are to be replaced with "this slave," or, “it”.
  3. Speaking to/of Us
    1. When speaking to Us, We prefer Ma'am. As a minimum:
      1. "Yes, Ma'am" or "No, Ma'am" in answer to a question.
      2. "Ma'am, yes, Ma'am" in acknowledgment of an order or answer from Us, no matter the answer.
      3. "Ma'am" at the beginning of a question or a request.
    2. When speaking of Us, in the community, refer to Us as Master Fire.
    3. When speaking to Us, outside the community, We still prefer Ma'am unless is it truly inappropriate.
    4. In those cases, Fire or Our given name will suffice.
  4. Speaking to others.
    1. Refer to them by their chosen title and preferred pronouns, even if you don’t agree.
    2. Ask what title and/or gender pronoun a person uses if unsure.
    3. Be polite to everyone, whenever possible, using Sir and Ma'am when appropriate, such as when speaking to other Masters or more senior people.
    4. If someone is excessively rude or more forward than is appropriate, the "protect the property" comes into effect and the person should be dealt with appropriately. Be as polite as possible, but firm.
  5. Writing to Us
    1. Pronouns referring to it are lowercase.
    2. Pronouns referring to Us are uppercase.
    3. Don't use the O/our style. Our speech protocols are convoluted enough.
    4. The slave's name and title are lowercase.
    5. Our name and title are uppercase.
  6. At the end of a conversation (optional, upon Our order)
    1. If the slave needs to leave, unless it is an absolute emergency, they will ask to be allowed to 'Continue' by asking, "Ma'am, do you wish your slave to continue?"
    2. When We give the 'Continue' command, the slave will respond, "Ma'am, yes Ma'am." At that point, the slave is free to go.
    3. If the slave is not in a place where the appropriate answer can be given at the end of a conversation, the "law of the land" prevails.
Event protocols
  1. The slave will be given a position in which to walk, such as ahead and to the left.
  2. When attending Us,
    1. Walk in its position. If in front, don't leave Us in the dust. If behind, don't step on Our skirt.
    2. If approached for a hug or a touch by someone unfamiliar, direct them to ask Us for permission.
  3. The slave is to ask permission to socialize. When socializing, the slave is free to hug, casually touch and casually kiss friends and family.
  4. The slave is to remain within Our sight or within earshot at all times, unless sent on an errand or given leave to attend without Us.
  5. The slave is to never leave Our vicinity without permission. We should never, at any time, find Ourself wondering where Our slave is unless it's due to Our poor memory or Our failure to communicate effectively.
Formal protocols
  1. The slave will be naked, if we are in a private setting, as temperature allows.
  2. The slave will sit at Our feet as furniture arrangement, health and such allow.
  3. The slave will present as they can to other Masters who are friends of the house upon first meeting them and upon their departure.
  4. The slave will speak when spoken to or ask permission to speak should they wish to add to the conversation. This is not to say that they can't speak, only that they need to ask to do so.
  5. The slave will present to ask for orders.
  6. The slave will ask to be continued when given orders or to be excused.
  7. The slave will be aware of and able to follow the slave hand signals as listed in Appendix E.

Household Model

No predefined structure is used; the structure is defined as Master Fire is spiritually led.

However, there is considerable influence from the Butchmanns Experience.

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